Generally, I conclude that it's better to keep my mouth (keyboard?) shut, and just stand by. I do regret that so many of "us" have had such negative experiences that an "anything I can do to help" email or phone call is met with such cynicism. It is my sincerest hope that you folks know I will do anything I can to help. You do know that, right?
If you don’t, then here it is: you folks who know me in RL are dear to me, and if you are having a hard time, and it's in my power to assist or comfort in any way, I will do it gladly. Cooking meals for you, watching pets while you're out of town, an evening of herbal tea and DVDs, some massage, or just an ear. If I can possibly carve out the time and energy, it's my pleasure to help. In perpetuity.
Please refer back to this post the next time you are in crisis. Thank you.