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Aug. 15th, 2003

Hi, everyone. I just wanted to mention that I tried surfing around LJ yesterday. I looked at my friends list and my friends' friends lists a bit, and ended up rather shaken by a number of depressed and unsettling entries I encountered.

You see, it's like this: if I'm going to expect you guys to read *my* pathos, then I certainly have to have the decency to read yours. But, because of my pathologically empathetic nature, I can't just shake it off and have a productive day if more than one or two of the people I care about are having a tough time.

Here's another thing. When someone announces a personal loss or tragedy on LJ (which everyone does from time to time) it's absolutely barbaric not to respond with a note of sympathy. But doing that in an online format feels terribly impersonal. If someone looses a friend or family member, or even a job or a girlfriend, I just can't feel right about commenting in their journal with a "gosh, that's rough." I'd much rather find out about that from the person's real-life face. I can be properly personal about my genuine sympathy in that kind of situation.

So, in short, I'm trying to learn not to leak emotional energy all over the place, and if that results in some esilence on my part, I hope you understand. I always welcome email contact, phone calls, etc. But it may be awhile before I'm able to get back to reading much of anyone's journals.

Comments

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rednikki
Aug. 15th, 2003 07:46 am (UTC)
That's OK; I understand. Would it help if I told you that I got good news? I probably won't get colon cancer!
fenriss
Aug. 15th, 2003 08:21 am (UTC)
Woohoo! Yes, that helps :) I am delighted to hear it. Can you tell me if there is any other diagnosis, though? I worry. Love.
crossbonesdj
Aug. 15th, 2003 08:02 am (UTC)
I understand what you mean.

Miss you
fenriss
Aug. 15th, 2003 08:21 am (UTC)
Thanks, hon. Miss you, too.
mercurialgirl
Aug. 15th, 2003 08:29 am (UTC)
::hug::

Yay for taking care of yourself. Good girl!
:>
boadiccea
Aug. 15th, 2003 11:13 am (UTC)
What she said! Ya gotta do whatchya gotta do!

And seriously, I guess I vent on LJ more so that when I see friends in person I'm not completely lost in my shit. I'm able to move along a little better and be a better friend if I get my crap out online.

*hugs*
mercurialgirl
Aug. 15th, 2003 11:24 am (UTC)
Not to be redundant, but what she said that wasn't what I said already.
:>

::puppy pile!::
lightbringer23
Aug. 15th, 2003 10:36 am (UTC)

Sometimes, a cat's gotta do what a cat's gotta do.
jbsegal
Aug. 15th, 2003 12:59 pm (UTC)
My gods. You're still out there. Hi.

FWIW, things are pretty good around here. :)
fenriss
Aug. 15th, 2003 01:28 pm (UTC)
Well… if it isn't the infamous JB. Glad to hear things are good with you!
chadu
Aug. 15th, 2003 01:32 pm (UTC)
I was amused when I mentioned you to R the other week and she said, "Oh, yeah, I know Jailbait."

You are the Kevin Bacon. Use your power for niceness, not naughtiness.

CU
seditiouscanary
Aug. 15th, 2003 02:10 pm (UTC)
I may sound negative, but it's mostly just me venting. Things are actually good for me apart from the job being annoying. Jenn and I are going on a camping trip this weekend. I scored a few days off from work so we can goof off while she is between school sessions. We were going to go see Eva and James, but they are leaving the same day we are. Poo! I had hoped to see them so...
funkergirl
Aug. 20th, 2003 07:10 am (UTC)
hey, its flame...
i added you awhile ago, but also noticed that you don't post often. since i just got back from war, i am trying to get all caught up on lj entries. i think i have over 400. eek.

hope you are well, and i miss seeing you.
moldavite_sofa
Sep. 15th, 2003 11:54 am (UTC)
Well if it isn't the Loveliest of lovely ladies! Chica, this is Monica. Feel Free to add me or to drop in and view my lil lj...giggle - you might just be pleasantly surprised! *evil grin BIG wink*

See you this weekend *smooches*
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