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Three Good Things: Good?

1. It's overcast this morning, contrary to earlier forecasts. I always prefer for it to be overcast in the morning because it makes the transition from my nice, cozy home to the unforgiving outside world a bit smoother.

2. I have seen an adorable baby bunny for several mornings in a row. I suspect her of chewing on my pumpkin vine, but I forgive her on account of she's totally squee-worthy and wee. (and bonus! I have at least one pumpkin getting really big, which is probably well beyond the point of vulnerability to damage by bunny.)

3. The book I got from my therapist on this type of group therapy she wants me to try is very interesting. It's inspiring me to lots of thinkiness, even if I don't buy all of its assertions. Some of the descriptions of emotional dysfunction sound very much like myself, and some just entirely don't. (bonus! I get to go over all of that with Warm, Friendly Therapist on Friday.)

And now, a poll.

I find the "three good things" meme on Fenriss' LJ

Pleasant/Useful. It's refreshing to see some positivity around here
33(94.3%)
Eh. I skim past.
0(0.0%)
It's OK, but I wish you'd post more content, frankly.
2(5.7%)
Irritating. It's just another pointless meme.
0(0.0%)

Comments

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peregrin8
Jul. 29th, 2008 01:46 pm (UTC)
more than just pleasant/useful -- it inspires me to think differently about my own day as well!
fenriss
Jul. 29th, 2008 02:59 pm (UTC)
Oh, good! That's very gratifying to hear. Hope you are having a good day today, hon.
eac
Jul. 29th, 2008 01:53 pm (UTC)
It isn't that I wouldn't like more context (in a world in which you had time), but I really like these independent of anything else.
nixieq
Jul. 29th, 2008 02:06 pm (UTC)
exactly. what she said.
fenriss
Jul. 29th, 2008 03:01 pm (UTC)
Yay :)
fenriss
Jul. 29th, 2008 03:01 pm (UTC)
Thanks! I just haven't been able to brain much. All my BTUs are burned up just getting through the day, and it seems like little snippets of things that happen to me are the best I can do. So I try to make them *good* little snippets.
minniethemoocha
Jul. 29th, 2008 02:18 pm (UTC)
Not that it *isn't* content - and I love seeing you post at all! I think it's nice, but I am greedy and want more Fenriss.
fenriss
Jul. 29th, 2008 03:02 pm (UTC)
Awww. That's a lovely thing to say. Thanks, hon. I will try to be more writey :)
minniethemoocha
Jul. 29th, 2008 03:05 pm (UTC)
Of course, I almost never post, myself! So I should take my own prescription, too. :)
fenriss
Jul. 29th, 2008 06:58 pm (UTC)
I wish you would, cuz I miss hearing from you!
theletterelle
Jul. 29th, 2008 02:59 pm (UTC)
I just like seeing you pop up in my flist more. :)
fenriss
Jul. 29th, 2008 03:02 pm (UTC)
Likewise, darlin'! I am always thrilled to see you around in any form. Smooch!
chelonologist
Jul. 29th, 2008 03:20 pm (UTC)
You know what I think ;)
fenriss
Jul. 29th, 2008 06:40 pm (UTC)
I do. And it's very flattering!
railwaymadness
Jul. 29th, 2008 04:12 pm (UTC)
but it really isn't you -- it's me
Due to some terrible personality quirk, I think I would enjoy these posts more if they were not called out specifically as "three good things". I love their content! I like hearing from you! Somehow the framing makes it seem like you're forcing yourself to do it; like it's less than entirely genuine. Which doesn't mean it is, or that anything about it should change, or that forcing yourself to do it is bad. It just means I am strangely suspicious of too much positivity. Maybe? Normally I love organized fun. Argh, hopefully exactly what my problem is will be more obvious to somebody on the outside.
fenriss
Jul. 29th, 2008 06:55 pm (UTC)
Re: but it really isn't you -- it's me
You do make a good point. I feel a little ridiculous typing the same subject line all the time, and it does feel a little forced. But the truth is, I kinda do have to force myself. It's a part of the therapeutic process for me, so there are certainly days when it doesn't feel natural.

Would it be better if I used different subject lines, or is it the exercise itself that's irksome? I understand being suspicious of too much positivity, but one of my most compelling reasons to do it is to try and balance out all the venting that people (myself very much included!) are inclined to do here. I could easily post everyday about how much it sucks to have a load of mood disorders, but who wants to listen to that, you know?
railwaymadness
Jul. 29th, 2008 07:18 pm (UTC)
Re: but it really isn't you -- it's me
I think the thing with it feeling/being forced will probably work itself out over time as long as you keep at it. New things are awkward and it can take a while to hit your stride? *shrug*

So anyway, here are my three good things (although I just typed "three food things" which made me laugh and therefore may count as a fourth thing):
1. My car passed safety inspection!
2. Calbee caesar flavor snapea crips = lunchtime yum.
3. I got an antenna feed at work so I can get down to some hardcore on-air testing. Because I am dorktastic and think this qualifies as a pretty good time :)
mels_hell
Jul. 29th, 2008 04:22 pm (UTC)
more than that...
In fact,Iwasjuddddtthinking about...

(oops, trying again without the help of the cat...)

I was just thinking that your "three good things" column was inspiring, in the sense that we should all think of three good things more often than we do. With the daily news, daily crap and all our daily workloads, we're very accustomed to sharing negativity, but maybe not so used to sharing the good stuff. Case in point, you wondered if the content might possibly be annoying :)

IMHO, it's not at all. :)

hugs!
fenriss
Jul. 29th, 2008 06:55 pm (UTC)
Re: more than that...
Well, thanks. I appreciate that.
akrissy
Jul. 30th, 2008 05:38 pm (UTC)
Re: more than that...
I'll attach to this thread of comments... I also agree with the positive heading and process you are doing in the open on LJ. Too much of what I see on LJ can be negative/venting and your posts are help tip the balance back towards being here. And reminds me to do my own positive practices on a daily basis.
fenriss
Jul. 31st, 2008 02:42 am (UTC)
Re: more than that...
that's a high compliment. hon. Thanks.
ninjacooter
Jul. 29th, 2008 06:15 pm (UTC)
Have you ever thought of giving Systemic Constellation therapy a try? It's remarkably powerful stuff, and it's helped me to hit some of the nastier crap in my psyche from a completely different angle.

The constellations that I've taken part of have been fairly life changing.

It might be something to look into.
fenriss
Jul. 29th, 2008 06:58 pm (UTC)
That looks really interesting. I see that one of the psychologists involved in its development was Virginia Satir. Satir was the mentor of an incredible therapist I had in college. We did do some of that sort of role-play stuff in the group she ran. I think the work I did with her can be given a lot of the credit for making me such a high-functioning head-case today!
ninjacooter
Jul. 29th, 2008 07:00 pm (UTC)
My friends, Sandy and Keter, have been facilitators for years. They're the ladies that have facilitated the constellations that have really altered some of my more negative life patterns.

I think Sandy's coming up in another month or so do to one locally - would you be interested? I can let you know.
fenriss
Jul. 29th, 2008 07:12 pm (UTC)
Sure, please let me know! I think it would really be worthwhile.
ninjacooter
Jul. 29th, 2008 07:14 pm (UTC)
Very cool! I definitely will.
lilu22
Jul. 30th, 2008 01:53 pm (UTC)
I like your post. I like hearing from you, the little things and otherwise. It's all part of life and I'm happy to be part of your life.
fenriss
Jul. 31st, 2008 02:42 am (UTC)
*hug*
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